Learning To Take Nothing Personally.
Okay so you’ve probably heard this one before and yet I bet your bottom dollar that to some degree you still take things personally, Am I right?
That is why we have an ego, to take things personally! I learnt this teaching at least eight years ago and I still learn from it daily.
Think about the people and situations tend to push your buttons.
Then next time you find yourself bothered by someone’s actions, remember this… nothing anyone else does is because of you. Nothing.
It may look like it is because their actions are directed at you and it feels personal. But people are quite capable of being unpleasant without even thinking about it.
What others say and do is nothing to do with you. It is a projection into the world of what is going on inside of them. It’s about their unresolved issues.
Their perception is built around beliefs, assumptions, opinions and values that have shaped their lives for better or worse.
The same applies to us.
When we can see this and understand how people’s judgements and opinions are based on their past experiences, we can come to the amazing realisation that ….
Although unpleasant things may have been said and done, it is not personal to us even though it may be happening to us.
This is a challenging idea to hold as we have been trained in the opposite direction; take everything personally, prepare to attack in return and feel like a victim. The good news is that with a little practice many of our upsets can disappear as we release and forgive.
The person who understands this can hold him or herself above the negative opinions, judgments and actions of others. We can act with detachment by not allowing our emotions to get “hooked” by others.
From this perspective we are more able to gain clarity, consider options and become better able to produce results in line with our most valuable goals and dreams.
When we allow ourselves not to be clouded with judgment and victim thinking, we can reach up to our higher values of compassion and integrity in designing positive ways forward. This alone can create a transformation in our lives, from intimate relationships to career decisions.
Leadership & Life Coach
P.S. Has this been helpful to you? I’d love to know in comments below. Amy x